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Nov. 30th, 2010 12:11 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
multipurposegoddess I should be doing the laundry I never got to yesterday. Or washing the dishes the somehow keep multiplying in the kitchen no matter how many meals I skip. But I just now, at noon, got my coffee made, so you can imagine how quickly I'm going to get onto those chores. Also, kitten asleep on my lap.
Went and picked out a grave marker yesterday - got a "companion" marker for both of us. I hope the guy at the chapel was right in his interpretation of which side of H's grave my plot was on; what he said is the opposite of what I understood from the guy out at the cemetery. But I can see how I would have gotten it wrong. When I was originally picking out the plot, the guy showing me around said "and traditionally the wife goes on the left" which I took to mean I'd be on H's left, the same way we slept (coincidentally), but the guy at the chapel says it's to the left from the POV of visitors standing at the foot. Anyway, the point of that is that my name will be on the left side of the marker and H's on the right. They usually do these with the family name across the top, so we (me and the guy from the chapel) decided to hyphenate, and he thought we'd better put my name first because that's the left side. I think H would be okay with that, and probably a little amused. MiL may not be, but that's just too bad. H and I had discussed the possibility of changing both of our names to the hyphenate version, but with his name first because with mine first it would inevitably be pronounced Scared Of Sieff. Which also has its appeal, but we were, at the time, Thinking of the Children.
Anyway, we'll have the Hebrew abbreviation of that line from the Book of Samuel between our individual plates, a menorah up in the left corner and a fleur-de-lis up on the right. Went with "For God Took Him" as H's epitaph (from Genesis 5:24, I think, looked it up at the office (chapel-guy thought spelling out God would be okay as the marker won't be thrown away, but if it has to be G-d that's fine with me. I'm sure the memorial people know what's needed)). It'll be a bronze marker on a pink granite base, because that's what everything in Gan Shalom is. Plain bevel edge, no flower vases. I should get the proof in a couple of weeks and they'll have the marker finished and installed a couple of months after that.
I can arrange the unveiling through them, which I expect is what I'll do. He said they are usually on the anniversary, which would make for less negotiating what dates to do with the in-laws. I'm not going to worry about that just yet, though.I've started having dreams with H in them. They're very ordinary dreams, we're just going about our business doing normal day-to-day stuff. In the dreams, of course, there's nothing remarkable about H being there, poking around the needing to be unpacked boxes under the solar panels with me (I'm very green in my dreams, apparently, but not very organized). Sad to wake up from, but nice while I'm dreaming.
Went and picked out a grave marker yesterday - got a "companion" marker for both of us. I hope the guy at the chapel was right in his interpretation of which side of H's grave my plot was on; what he said is the opposite of what I understood from the guy out at the cemetery. But I can see how I would have gotten it wrong. When I was originally picking out the plot, the guy showing me around said "and traditionally the wife goes on the left" which I took to mean I'd be on H's left, the same way we slept (coincidentally), but the guy at the chapel says it's to the left from the POV of visitors standing at the foot. Anyway, the point of that is that my name will be on the left side of the marker and H's on the right. They usually do these with the family name across the top, so we (me and the guy from the chapel) decided to hyphenate, and he thought we'd better put my name first because that's the left side. I think H would be okay with that, and probably a little amused. MiL may not be, but that's just too bad. H and I had discussed the possibility of changing both of our names to the hyphenate version, but with his name first because with mine first it would inevitably be pronounced Scared Of Sieff. Which also has its appeal, but we were, at the time, Thinking of the Children.
Anyway, we'll have the Hebrew abbreviation of that line from the Book of Samuel between our individual plates, a menorah up in the left corner and a fleur-de-lis up on the right. Went with "For God Took Him" as H's epitaph (from Genesis 5:24, I think, looked it up at the office (chapel-guy thought spelling out God would be okay as the marker won't be thrown away, but if it has to be G-d that's fine with me. I'm sure the memorial people know what's needed)). It'll be a bronze marker on a pink granite base, because that's what everything in Gan Shalom is. Plain bevel edge, no flower vases. I should get the proof in a couple of weeks and they'll have the marker finished and installed a couple of months after that.
I can arrange the unveiling through them, which I expect is what I'll do. He said they are usually on the anniversary, which would make for less negotiating what dates to do with the in-laws. I'm not going to worry about that just yet, though.I've started having dreams with H in them. They're very ordinary dreams, we're just going about our business doing normal day-to-day stuff. In the dreams, of course, there's nothing remarkable about H being there, poking around the needing to be unpacked boxes under the solar panels with me (I'm very green in my dreams, apparently, but not very organized). Sad to wake up from, but nice while I'm dreaming.